10 Tips For Women: Being Romantic

Here is a top 10 list of things to do to light a fire of desire, and enhance the romance in your life.

When you ladies think romance, what pops into your heads? Do you think about quiet strolls on the beach, sitting by a fireplace with a nice glass of wine, or hot tubs with lots of bubbles? Do you crave excitement with your significant other or just some tender, intimate moments for the two of you?

Well, all of that is part of it. Those things are the setting for the dance of romance, or, to put it another way, the icing on the honey cake, if you will - but there are some things you should bear in mind if you really, really, really want the romance to come to life for you. With that in mind, here are 10 little suggestions that will make the love of your life (or even your companion for the evening) find you simply irresistible.

Ready? Here goes!

1. Have confidence in yourself and believe in yourself. Tell yourself over and over again, "I am a hottie!" No matter whether you are short, tall, skinny, heavyset, or you possess any other physicalities that speak that nasty old negativity to you, plain and simple, just look in the mirror and say to yourself that there is no one else in the world just like you. You are unique and fabulous - and now is the time to believe it! Remember, men and women alike are drawn to women who are cool and are self-assured. Be one of them.

2. Find some common ground. Find things that you and your favorite love person like to do together. It helps to make that bond even stronger. Go to a concert or a show. Go to a baseball game or an ice hockey game. Check out NASCAR. Do you like movies, playing video games, attending wine tastings or Country and Western line dancing? Do it! It's all about having fun together.

3. Smell like clean laundry and soap. Okay, this one may sound hokey, but guess what? While some men and women like the smell of perfumes and colognes, some do not care for it, and some are actually allergic to it. Now, if your dude or dudette likes a particular aroma, by all means, go for it. When I say that, I mean, don't overdose in it, but lightly apply it - just to leave a lingering trail. However, not to knock the scent industry, you understand, but just as a gentle hint, almost everyone just loves the smell of clean. It is indescribably sexy.

4. Find one food dish that you can cook or make really well. This dish is the thing that you make that all your friends rave about and they constantly ask you for the recipe, too. The way to a man's (and woman's) heart, as they say, is through the stomach, and it's true. If you are truly a rotten cook or loathe the idea of being in the kitchen, then call the caterer and order some of your lover's absolutely favorite foods. However, if your lady or gentleman friend likes to cook, ask her or him to join you in la cucina, to celebrate in all your culinary splendor. (You may not even make it to dessert, by the way!)



5. Listen. This may be one of the most important things you'll ever do to make your special paramour particularly entranced by you. The reason is that the more you seem to be interested in what he or she has to say, (and the less you say, at times) the more he or she will think that you are without a doubt, the most brilliant conversationalist of the ages. This is a complete and utter turn on for almost everyone.

6. Compliments. Compliments. Compliments. Remember how your mother always said that it is just as easy to find something nice to say as something, well, not so nice? Well, in this case, Mom was right! Whether you want to compliment your darling about eyes, clothing, haircut, getting cast on a reality TV show or even getting over a fear or flying, say it.

Don't be shy. It always makes that certain someone feel special when you can find something nice to say about him or her.

And, while we are on the subject of compliments, let me say one other thing. If you get a compliment - and you will - be gracious and polite in accepting it. There is no such thing as false modesty, so when your sweetie says something positive about you, take it in the spirit for which it is given.

7. Act silly. I can hear you saying right now, "But I want to be serious. How can being silly make for a romantic interlude?" The answer to your query is that by being silly, you make yourself vulnerable, but it also shows off how comfortable you are with being you. Are you still confused? Here's an example, then: play your MP3 or CD of the Meatloaf song, Paradise By The Dashboard Lights. Give your honey a hair brush and you take one, too. They are to be used as ersatz, impromptu microphones, by the way. Now, have your sugar take one of the parts of the duet and then you take the other part. Belt out the song in your loudest voice. It's a blast. It can also be an icebreaker if your evening starts out a bit more tense than you would like it to be. The point here is that you are having fun and your man or woman is sharing in the fun with you.

8. Touch his or her arm lightly while making conversation. Touching makes a connection and it can definitely serve as a prelude - to whatever. Enough said on that subject.

9. Make eye contact. Bat those lovely eyelashes, wink or just gaze into your lover's eyes. They say that the eyes are the mirror to the soul. Take advantage of this because with your eyes, you can speak and communicate volumes. Let your special someone know, with just one fleeting look of your come hither glance, that you are ready for some heady romance.

10. Laugh! This is absolutely the most key thing you should take with you from this list. Even if you remember nothing else, keep this one point with you all of the time. There is nothing so inviting, so appealing and so utterly attractive to members of either sex as someone who is having a rip-roaring good time. I am not making this up. Think about it. You are around someone who is laughing and what do you think? You think, I want to be with that person! You think, I want to be a part of that party. You are thinking that that person is flirting, having fun and having the time of his or her life. You know that you want to be in on it, so why not be it? Your sweetheart will think this, too - and will thank you for it more than you can imagine.

As you can see, it is all very easy, since just about every one of these things comes from inside of you. If you take these little ideas and tips, you too can star in your own romance tale. Enjoy and have fun! Ah amour!

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