5 Reasons To Get Married

Not sure if you should get married? Here are five good reasons why love and marriage may be good for you.

Just about everyone thinks about getting married at some point in their lives, and many go ahead and do it. Unfortunately, of those that wed, about half will rethink that decision and eventually divorce. Interestingly, however, a majority of the divorced spouses end up marrying a second time, and some even go for number three. There must be something about marriage that keeps people coming back for more.

There are many good reasons to get married. Here are some to consider as you wrestle with your own verdict on the topic:

1. Companionship. Having someone with whom to talk, go places, and share trials is a priority goal for many people who are contemplating marriage. Life can be lonely when we trudge that path alone. But even the deepest sorrow can become manageable with a caring spouse by our side. Whether you work or stay home, sharing a household at night and on weekends can contribute to a sense of fulfillment in your personal and social areas. You need not worry how it will look to others if you go stag since you won't have to. And when you get ill, there will be someone to look after you.

2. Romance. Sure, you can get involved with someone without tying the knot. But how meaningful is that? Both parties know one or the other can give up on the relationship at a moment's notice, creating a sense of insecurity and tentativeness that many couples find uncomfortable. Statistics suggest that eighty percent of couples who live together before marriage will not make it to ten years afterward. The respect and commitment that come with a formal marriage can enhance the romantic value of the couple's relationship. It's fun to wake up with someone who has pledged their life to you, and vice versa. And it's great not having to feel guilty about stolen kisses or a late-night rendezvous.

3. Household support. Whether male or female, you are bound to appreciate the help you can get around the house from your spouse. After all, sharing a home means that both of you are invested in a future together. You both want clean, comfortable living space, and an attractive home where you can entertain family and friends. Sharing chores can create occasional conflict, but working through it builds individual character as well as relational unity.

4. Family. Raising a family together is perhaps the most intimate relationship of all. It's not easy to bring children into the world, get up at night when they're sick, find the money to pay for braces and college, and then eventually let them go out on their own, leaving you in the sole companionship of the person you began with, your spouse. Children need both a female and male influence; lacking one or the other may disrupt normal developmental patterns and social adjustment. While many single parents successfully raise healthy, successful children, generally it is easier and better to have two parents working together to achieve this goal.

5. Financial security. Most of us can financially support ourselves adequately if we have a job outside the home that pays sufficiently. But what happens when the company goes out of business or you develop a life-threatening illness that costs your job? While marrying for money is not an inspirational goal, it does help to know that within marriage, the couple can share assets and help each other through tough times, financial difficulties included.

After weighing these and other options, you may be able to come to a decision about whether you want to marry, and when you should do so. Enter marriage planning to give a hundred and ten percent, and seeking your spouse's well-being as much as, if not more than your own, and both of you may end up with marital bliss.

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