Accepting Hair Loss

Hair loss is a natural indication of growing older; we need to embrace aging and reject our society's obsession with eternal youth.

Growing older, and all that goes with it, is a part of life that our society has chosen to reject. The media is, perhaps, the worst culprit, with the plethora of tabloids and magazines donning every supermarket and discount store check-out shelf with colorful pictures of surgically enhanced superstars. They all look young, beautiful, trim and happy, and they all have beautiful hair. Rarely on supermarket tabloid covers do we see men who have lost or are losing their hair.

Not all men lose their hair, which is why losing hair can be a difficult thing for many men. Similarly, not all women gain the mid-life spread around their hips and not everyone's hair turns gray; not early on, anyway. Yet most women get the spread, all of our hair eventually turns gray, and most men will lose at least some of their hair. So how do we deal with the requirements our youth-obsessed culture has put on us? The answer is to fight back. We need to embrace aging and take some cues from our Asian neighbors.

The Japanese revere their elderly. Gray hair or no hair is a sign of maturity and wisdom. History shows us that in the not so distant past, youth was looked on as silly and frivolous while aged wisdom was revered. Somewhere in the 20th century, that all changed and it flip-flopped, with youth being the center of our culture and aged people being put away in retirement homes to die. We need to go back to our roots and think about age logically. We need to revere getting older and wear our wrinkles and hair loss as a badge of honor.

A few ways to deal with and accept hair loss is as follows:

1. Do not look at supermarket tabloids. The majority of the movie stars have beautifully thick hair, and even those terribly handsome men who have lost their hair, such as Burt Reynolds and Sean Connery, have sadly chosen to cover it up with false hair-pieces.

2. Choose your entertainment wisely. Read books and watch movies that honor age and bring back the traditional views of growing older. Modern entertainment will rarely do this so you might want to return to the classics.

3. Talk to trusted friends or family members about your hair loss. If you are struggling with the change in your looks or feelings of doubt or inadequacy, talk to someone about it that will support you. Many times men feel that the women in their life will no longer find them attractive when they begin to lose their hair. In most cases, nothing could be further from the truth. Be open and honest about your feelings and find out what the woman in your life really thinks.

4. Embrace the phrase, "Bald is beautiful!" Remember that? Sure, it's a trendy cliché, but it's true!

5. Remember, 90% of the way you look depends on your self-confidence. If you are bald but confident and self-assured, the world will find you handsome and charismatic. If you have a thick mane of hair but no self-confidence, your looks will be irrelevant. It's what is on the inside that counts.

6. If you still struggle with hair loss and can't seem to get past the obvious, talk to a counselor or doctor. There are surgical and medical options available, but know that these have to be maintained and often done over and over. Many people who have chosen artificial means to change their looks are never quite the same.

The most important thing to do is accept who you are and like yourself. You were created the way you are for a reason and there is only one you - and remember, bald is beautiful!

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