ADD, ADHA, And Children

Information for parents on how to cope and understand the child with ADD. What are some of they symptoms, how to handle situations that may arise and what are IEP meetings at school for.

Parenting the ADD (attention deficit disorder) can be hard and very demanding at times. Whether you and your physician decide if medication is appropriate there are several issues to be dealt with. Some of the symptoms you may find are inability to concentrate, hyperactive, impulsive, disorderly, inability to follow more than one direction, disrespectful, volatile at times, acting out, destructive, poor social skills, increase energy, poor attention span.

It is first and foremost important that as a parent of an ADD child is that this condition is not caused by bad parenting skills. It is a condition that can be dealt with and controlled with the right mixture of understanding the condition and counseling. Counseling is not only for the child but also for the entire family as it can become taxing on the family as a whole unit.

These children are usually labeled as "unruly," impulsive and acting out in school. Asking your educational system to evaluate your child to assure no hindrances in the educational process is a good start. It is a long process, but very conducive to the learning process. Your child may feel overwhelmed with what is asked of them at school, and the curriculum can be modified so your child may feel more comfortable and learn. If it is deemed, your child is indeed ADD, they (school system) will set up usually three sessions a year for you to attend and share what will be provided for your child to help in the educational process. This is commonly called an IEP meeting (Intervention Education Program). This meeting usually consists of the Principal, teachers, psychologist, counselor and the parents. Working as a team to meet the needs of the child, and to report any progress or digression in learning ability. This may continue throughout the educational process of your child or your child may outgrow ADD. Even after your child is removed from medication, the school system will keep them on IEP for at least two years to assure proper education.

Ongoing counseling is suggested for anger management, and family counseling.

At home you may become discouraged when asking your child to clean his or her room. A good tip that has worked for me is when the room is clean take a picture of it,and hang it near the door of your child's room. When you send them to clean the room instead of giving them several tasks to do at one time simply show the picture and tell them this is what the room should look like when cleaned. This way you and the child know the expectations and fewer disagreements happen. The child can then refer to the picture as often as he or she needs to.

Sitting with your child when they are doing homework may seem a chore, but needs to be done. Your child should be given an assignment book, have the teacher write down each assignment due the next day. As your child completes each assignment initial it and move onto the next. This shows your child some organization skills as well as lets the teacher know you have taken an interest in your child's education.

Writing a list of chores you would like your child to complete and having them check it off as they do it is much easier than telling them. They will forget more than two or three commands this helps them to remember.

Decrease your tension, it will also decrease the child's tension. Before raising your voice give yourself as well as the child a time out. Lashing out in anger will only cause the child to do the same.

Rewarding your child for work-completed increases' self esteem, remember this as you ask your child to do something. If it is done wrong, still tell your child how wonderful it was that they did do it, but this is also another way of completing the task. Work with them, showing constantly what it is you want. Allowing them to complete a task incorrectly and not correcting it with them will only lead to them doing the same thing again.

Lastly give yourself some personal time and space. Take time to meditate, read a book, and take a long bath or something that is pleasurable for you.

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