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Are you having problems with your child not being able to control his anger? Managing anger can be done, and he needs to learn to control this anger on his own. Please don't respond to his anger with your own anger, this solves nothing and can create even more anger. Show the child how you act in the correct manner and hopefully he will also follow as you react to situation. If you are always mad and angry at someone and showing it verbally or even physically then he will follow your example.
If your child is expressing anger that you feel is excessive, then by all means put him in time out or send him to his room. Tell him he can come out of his room or out of time out as soon as he regains control, and that you will not be bothered with listening to him yell, scream, talk back or be agressive in any way. Tell him you do not treat him this way and will not tolerate his behavior to anyone from him.
Try to sit down and talk to him in a very calm way: ask him why he is always angry and when he is getting so emotional over things, talk very nice to him and see what the problem might be.
Perhaps someone is being a bully to him at school and he won't talk back to this person but is taking it out on others, this can happen. You always need to know the reason for his anger or emotional behavior, and then you have the tools to solve the behavioral problem: without knowledge
of the problem how can you react to change?
Perhaps you might want to get out a set of note cards or just a binder and have him write down ways to control his anger so that he can look back and think about how to handle himself. A child who is angry might just sit quietly alone, might listen to soft music, might read, maybe go
outside and jog around the yard, there are so many remedies for anger it is impossible to approach each one, but taking a child's mind off the anger causing problem and returning to face it later is a very good example of being able to
manage anger and emotions.
A child needs to be told that life is not always as they want it to be: learning this and learning how to accept things as they happen and also having tools to manage their emotions will make such a difference in their life as an adult. It is not easy being a good parent, we all know this,
but most of all we need to try to understand our child, have confidence in him, love him, and guide him those years when he is in our care. We can, we just have to work at parenting and always be positive.
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