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By increasing your self esteem right now you will be happier and have more confidence in your abilities. And those who appear confident others will trust. When others trust you your career will improve and your relationships with others will improve. Now's the time to begin to raise your self confidence.
First grab a pencil and a couple pieces of paper. Consider some things about yourself. As you honestly write the answers down and you will begin to see what a wonderful person you are.
To begin make a list of your talents. Some of the first things many people think of are artistic talents, like drawing, painting, playing music, singing, dancing etc. Other areas include cooking, running, writing, decorating, getting things done on time. And then what about your relationships with people? Are you a good listener? Do you always know what someone else actually means even though they don’t say it perfectly? Do you know how to give good compliments? Can you be honest with people while still taking their feeling in to consideration? Come up with at least ten talents that you have. And here is a hint: talents aren’t something that you do better then everybody else, they are just something that just kind of comes naturally. Some of them you won’t be really good at just because you haven’t fully developed them, but you still have them and you can call on them whenever you have the desire to work on that area of yourself.
Now make a list of things that interest you. This may sound the same as your talents, but it’s not necessarily. These are things you enjoy reading about, talking about. Things that you know something about and can hold a conversation about. When this list is made you will see how many things you know about or can at least ask intelligent questions about. When trying to gain confidence in a relationship you can direct conversations to these areas and know that you can speak confidently about them. Some examples are: genealogy, specific biographies, architecture, weather patterns, family life, parenting, investing, exciting dates etc.
The next list to make is about what you have done or are doing that is better than it was five years ago. Include methods that are better, increased abilities and better results. Which relationships are better? What did you do to get them there? What specific things do people notice about you that they didn’t five years ago? Did you get a promotion or change your career? Think about how you have improved and then think about ways that you will likely improve even more in the next five years. Using this method shows how you can gain confidence by competing against yourself and only against yourself, what other people are doing never even enters the picture.
The last list is about what you have done for others. Do you have children? What are some sacrifices you have made for them? What about friends? How have you made their lives better? And what about coworkers, employers or employees? It doesn’t have to be anything recent either, just within your life time. Write about every time that you can think of when you have affected someone’s life for good. This list you will probably never be able to complete because there are many you won’t remember and many times that you’ve helped and don’t even know it.
With these four lists in hand you will see that you are a wonderfully talented individual who can contribute confidently to a conversation. You have come a long way in improving yourself and you have helped many others along the way. This is only the beginning too. You are more important than you will ever know, but with these list you can realize you have a claim to happiness, achievement and high self-esteem.
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