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One out of every 7 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. Every year millions of women suffer from the loss of a child. Chances are, if you haven't had a miscarriage yourself, you know someone who has. Women in every country of the world experience this kind of loss. It does not discriminate in any way what so ever.
Pregnancy loss can cause a great amount of emotional stress as well as the physical pain each woman endures due to miscarriage. Losing a child due to miscarriage is devastating. This devastation can lead to feelings of depression, helplessness and hopelessness. All of these raise the amount of stress the woman feels while trying to cope with losing her child. There are many ways a woman can help herself alleviate this stress.
Allow yourself time to grieve.
Make sure you give yourself time to cry and hurt over your loss. You have just suffered a life changing loss. It is natural to feel a great amount of pain emotionally. Letting your self grieve helps the healing process.
Remember you are not alone.
There are people all around you who will be feeling your loss, too. Grandparents, family members, friends all will feel sorrow when they realize the baby is gone. While it may be different from the feelings you are having, they are still right there with you. Allow yourself to lean on them. Tell them how you feel and what thoughts you are having. More than likely they are having some of the same thoughts and feelings you are having.
Keep a perspective on the insensitive things other people may say.
Whenever something like this happens there are people who don't understand what you are going through. This does not mean they don't want to be helpful. A lot of times some of the people you hold dear will say things that seem very insensitive. They are just at a loss for what to say, don't take it personally when someone tries to tell you there's always time to have another child. Most people who say this do not understand the pain you are dealing with.
Build a support system for yourself.
Whenever a person goes through a tragedy it is important for that person to feel like there is someone to turn to. Building yourself a support system will help when you have times that you need to talk to someone whom you know understands your pain. Your doctors, your life mate and other women who have been through this are your best support system. Check your area for support groups of women who have suffered the same loss. Talk to your doctor and don't be afraid to ask any questions. He or she has been through this with many other patients. Chances are that he or she has already heard what you're going to say. Don't cut your life mate out. This person is suffering just as much as you are. Together you can help each other through this trying time.
Practice relaxation techniques.
No one knows better than you do what helps you relax. Take a long bubble bath as often as you need. Curl up with your favorite book and a cup of tea under your favorite blanket. Go for long walks in your favorite place. Take long bicycle rides or go roller blading. Meditate or watch your favorite movie in a dark room. Whatever it is that helps you to relax, do it, as often as possible during your grieving time.
Go away for a few days.
If you have the opportunity, get away from home for a few days. Go to a lake or cabin somewhere where you can take a mini vacation. Enjoy this time with your life mate. Splurge on expensive meals while you're gone and maybe get a massage. Buy something special for yourself while you're gone. Just give yourself a chance to spoil you. If you can't get away, maybe plan a day trip and do some of these things anyway, just closer to home.
Write a letter to your baby.
Get all your thoughts and love down in writing. Tell your child how much you will miss him or her. Let the child know how much he or she was wanted and how much it hurt that you will never get to meet him or her. Give your child a name while you do this so whenever you have a sad moment you can talk to him or her. If there was no way for you to know the gender, give your child a cross gender name like Alex.
No matter how you deal with your loss, taking care of yourself is essential to healing not only physically but emotionally too. You will carry this loss with you for the rest of your life, but it is possible to do so living a happy and balanced lifestyle. The pain does ease in time. Life goes on and you do find ways to smile and enjoy living again.
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