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Shyness is largely a lack of confidence in oneself, to overcome shyness you need to look at all your characteristics and learn what you can and can not do, learn your weaknesses and your strengths and learn to accept them as who you are. Before you can feel confident in meeting new people and having any relationships, whether it is on a personal level or on a business level you must obtain that level of confidence in yourself. It’s in you and every human; it just needs a little help from you to let it out.
Fear is another culprit in denying us the freedom of talking openly to strangers. Fear of looking stupid and being embarrassed stops the majority of people from even getting the first sentence out of their mouth. The only way to overcome fear is to do what we fear and to keep doing it.
When meeting new people try to broaden the way you think, don’t be self-centered talk about things that might interest them. Nobody wants to have an entire conversation about one person, especially try not to brag or prop yourself on a pedestal. This is a sure way to turn people off to you; they may sit and listen because they do not want to be rude. But, this will lose them and make a very bad first impression. It is best to listen and encourage others to talk about themselves, not hog the whole conversation.
If the other person is talking show them that you are interested in what they are saying, even if you are shy, that is no reason for being rude. Show someone the same respect they would show you, listen and show a genuine interest. If opinions are asked give honest opinions, if it is a negative opinion, have tact and do not criticize, condemn or complain. People do not like to hear that they are wrong or that their way is wrong. Remember your opinion is your opinion, not rock solid advice that the other person has to do.
Remember when speaking to other people they may me shy also, so this is a groundbreaking experience for two parties at the same time. Meeting new people and overcoming shyness is a process that will take just getting out and talking, and you will soon see you can be friendly and make new friends.
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