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Are your children fighting constantly? Maybe I can help with a few suggestions. First of all realize this occurs in all families. Remember children can get frustrated or angry with a sibling and unlike adults they don't have the self-control or the wisdom to handle the frustrations as adults have learned. So your role naturally as their parent will be to teach them self-control and give them wisdom: it isn't easy, but it can be accomplished.
First of all if they are fighting or pushing or even hitting then you as a parent will need to just be firm and say this is not going to go on and that there will be restricting of one or the other or both depending on the sibling who is at fault. Then ask one child why would you do this to the other child and try to find out the root of the problem.
Another thought is to put both children in chairs at the kitchen table and tell them you are not going to ask a question as to why this happened and that you want them to solve the problem before they are to watch television or to do anything else. If it takes awhile then it is worth the time. If you are in the kitchen you can be doing dishes, cooking, etc. and accomplish something while they just sit and consider solving this problem, bet the problem will be solved without the television, video games or anything else to take over their attention.
Now sometimes you will need to listen from a distance when siblings are fussing as they can solve it themselves a lot of the time plus you don't want to be in the middle each time they fuss anyway. If you need to interrupt the argument, do so, but please don't take sides, try separating the children for perhaps ten minutes then let them be together again, try this a few times. If you need to inquire as to why one or the other or both are fighting, tell them to tell you in maybe two sentences, no more, no detailed explanation.
As a last resort tell them if they can't get along then they will be separated and won't have the chance to fight with one or the other of their siblings.
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