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Are you having problems with your child always making rude comments anywhere, at home, school, or all the time?
Children sometimes use words without thinking and don't even realize these words are unacceptable social behavior as they still lack the maturity, understanding or sensitivity to know the difference. They try to protect themselves and naturally don't think before speaking, just as some adults are prone to do also. Teaching a child that this behavior is not acceptable is the determining factor in changing the behavior.
I would advise when this occurs to tell all around you to excuse you and your child and get off to yourselves: never do the following in front of others, and tell him that you do not accept talking in this manner and what does he intend to do to change the situation that he has created. If he hasn't a clue how to handle the situation then tell him what to do and then discuss his actions when you get home.
Are your children being influenced by television, friends, adults or others and seeing that rude behavior is acceptable by som? If so then you need to change this also. Whenever you find the cause of rude comments then you can work on changing them for the better.
Sometimes a child will say something and doesn't realize how hurt a person could be, say you are at the grocery and a man is there with only one arm and your child makes a rude comment even if the man doesn't hear him, then you need to inform him that it just isn't acceptable to make fun of anyone and it is never to happen again.
You can tell the child that certain words or actions are not acceptable such as rude comments at home or in public and if he just doesn't obey your thoughts, then it is time to take action with time outs, extra chores, not attending a school dance: in short losing some privilege that he has been looking forward to attending or having.
This will depend on the age of the child and also the level of maturity: also I firmly believe self-esteem is a factor in the rude behavior of a child.
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