When trying to decide on the appropriate outfit for an event she offers this advice: "When one is invited to an event at a restaurant, hotel or country club, try to call ahead and find out what the appropriate attire is for that specific event. One can usually ask the event coordinator for help in this area because ...a good event coordinator will know all of the details involved including how the host or hostess wants their guests to be dressed. These coordinators appreciate the opportunity to offer suggestions because they have a personal stake and their reputation to consider. Even if the party or event is in a private home, call ahead and ask the host or hostess. Again, they want the event to be successful so they do not mind you calling." She goes on to advise that if you are going to be attending a function "in a church or other house of worship...on the side of conservatism is best." If you cannot get a clear answer from a reputable source on how you should be dressed for a gathering, choosing an outfit that might be viewed as a little too traditional is a great deal better then being seen as offensive. After observing the way others dress for the event in the area, you can add more flair the next time you attend a similar one.
When deciding on how one should get dressed for an event, the choices do not stop at just your attire. You must also take into consideration, your accessories such as jewelry. Again, less is more, if you do not know what the "proper etiquette" of the social grouping may be. Simple studs or small hoop earrings look polished with any ensemble. If you do not have a necklace that would be considered safe, bare necks are considered quite fashionable nowadays. Instead of wearing your bangle bracelets, a small gold or silver watch adds drama without being overbearing and you're wrists won't feel as "naked". Lillian Eichler, in "Today's Etiquette", published in 1941 by DoubleDay Doran, writes: "Briefly, ornament should be planned to enrich and beautify, not to assert. It should serve some definite purpose and not be added indiscriminately. It should form a note in the general harmony of line and color." Isn't it funny how fashion may change, yet those words of proper dress still ring true today?
The finishing touches of any type of dress for a woman are her cosmetics. "Less is more" does not necessarily apply when it comes to makeup. However, the more you apply, the more knowledge you must possess. Invest in some good cosmetic tip books and clip out the hints in your favorite beauty magazines and practice to gain the skills needed in the art of cosmetics. Until then, a modest foundation, a coat of mascara and a little lip gloss goes a long way. Leah Feldon says in her book "Dressing Rich", published in 1982 by G.P. Putnam's Sons, "When cosmetics are applied well, they add a final polish and sophistication to your appearance. When they are applied with a heavy (inexperienced) hand their purpose is defeated."
