I have two kids. It's a change for the better, but it's also definitely a challenge. I can tell you that when my oldest was born, it was probably one of the most stressful times in my marriage. At the same time, I think there are gifts with pain and with stress. I think one of the gifts at that time, besides my son, was that my husband and I grew much closer through all of the stress. We learned a lot about ourselves and about each other. I think childbirth is an opportunity for growth. I recommend that you use your family as much as possible for support and getting help with the baby. Grandparents want to be with the baby, and it's good for the baby to be with other people, too. I know it's a bit of a challenge, but the sooner you can get the baby on a sleep schedule, the easier it's going to be for mom for dad to have time for each other. That's something I incorporated early. My kids are a bit older today, but they know when their bedtime is. My husband and I know that when they go to sleep, we have time for each other. Romance can happen. You've just got to create a space for it.
