How Can One Have A Happy Marriage?

Yes. It's just not a simple question. I think I spoke about some of these things; making sure that there is compatibility beforehand on values, not for every single thing, but for the most important values and interests. You have got to be able to spend time together to have a good relationship. Sometimes couples just miss some of these basics. They stop doing the things that they liked doing before they got married; the time they spend together, the walks together or the movies together or however they came to know each other. They get into their lives and then wonder why they start to not feel close when they don't have basic time together. They may be so caught up in the practical things that need to be done with kids, with family, with finding a house or paying the bills, and those things will often eat up that basic bottom line. So get back to the things that you would do together and make sure that you don't poison the relationship along the way with a lot of super negative attitudes. When there is conflict, try to resolve it and listen to each other. A lot of times that is getting into how to solve problems, but couples will very quickly come into communication trouble if they start interrupting and talking over each other and not allowing each one to fully have a time to be acknowledged by the other person. Many times just being listened to is enough to shift some of the energy; sometimes that's important too.