It depends on you. You have to transcend your ego and make the decision to restore the trust. Then be consciously self-observant, working on your self-esteem and the value that you bring to the table. I realize that it isn't my husband I need to trust, I need to trust God who will only provide me with circumstances that are in my best interest. I really believe that. I think that even the worst of circumstances happen because there is something that you gain from them or learn from them. We can become better and stronger people from them. Personally, I have to trust that anything that happens to me is the right thing for me to experience. Secondly, I have to trust myself to be able to handle whatever it is that happens. When I was getting married and thinking, "What if he cheats on me," the reality is that it happens all the time. The question is not whether I can trust my partner; it's whether I trust myself to be able to handle being hurt. Can I grow from it instead of becoming a victim of it? Even if the other person is the most kind, conscious, honest, and trustworthy person on the planet, they can still die, get injured, or something could happen to them to pull them away from you. My dad and mom were together for 55 years, and my mom just passed away. My dad is hurt, and I am sure that's not the first time that he has been hurt in their relationship. You just have to choose enhancing your self-esteem to know that when those circumstances come up, you'll be able to respond them.
