Dealing With The Loss Of Libido In Men: Tips And Advice

A loss of libido is about much more than just sex. It is a signal, a sign, and it should not be ignored.

Experiencing a loss of libido can have deep effects upon a man's life, reaching far beyond the bedroom. Because sexual performance is often closely related to feelings of self-esteem, difficulty in sexual functioning can lead to a general depression, as well as tension in intimate relationships and even physical and emotional withdrawal from life partners. When men experience a loss of libido, all too often they suffer in silence. This is unfortunate, because there is now a great deal that can be done medically to help male sexual dysfunction. Furthermore, it is important to note that a loss of libido can indicate significant health problems.

While an occasional failure of libido is perfectly natural, if a man experiences more than occasional incidents of dysfunction, he should contact his healthcare provider and make an appointment for a complete physical exam. Sexual dysfunction can be an early sign of other health problems, such as cardio and circulatory diseases, diabetes and thyroid conditions, and should not be ignored.

Postponing treatment can make the problem worse by creating a cycle of failure, then frustration followed by negative expectations and anxiety, which in turn lead to further failure and frustration, reinforcing the negative expectations. This could potentially make a physical problem more complex - thus more difficult to treat -- by adding a psychological component to it.

During the initial physical exam, it is important that all medications, both prescription and non-prescription, be disclosed, as well as the use of any other substances, to the healthcare provider. Many common medications, including anti-depressants, blood pressure medications, heart medications and even medications for peptic ulcers, can affect sexual performance. Alcohol, nicotine, some over the counter medications and, of course, street drugs, can contribute to erectile dysfunction and a lack of libido.

Depending on the root cause, there is much that can be done medically to alleviate the problem. Treatments range from medications and hormone therapies to mechanical devices to surgical solutions. Sometimes resolving the problem can be as simple as adjusting the prescription medications that are already being taken.

If a physical cause is ruled out, then the next step is to investigate psychological causes. Identifying potential sources of difficulty is the first step. This may be accomplished through by a careful review of lifestyle followed by deliberate efforts to reduce stress. Individual or couples counseling is useful for working through more complicated issues. In addition to helping to identify stressors and conflicts, a therapist specializing in sexual matters and intimacy issues will be able to offer concrete help using therapeutic - and often quite enjoyable -- exercises specifically designed to develop skills and restore confidence.



Having said all of that, there are home treatments for a loss libido or sexual dysfunction. The first step to take is to review dietary patterns. A nutritious and healthy diet is important to the physical and mental health that will enhance sexual desire and performance.

A little research will show that there are many foods that have been associated through the ages with increasing the libido. While, admittedly, there are conflicting beliefs among experts concerning these foods and their effectiveness in affecting libido, many are tasty and healthy additions to a well-rounded and nourishing diet. A diet rich in fruits, vegetables, legumes and grains, spiced with such traditional libido enhancers as ginger root, basil, cardamon, clove, garlic, pepper, and asafetida, can only be helpful. Ginseng, royal jelly and gingko nuts are also said to be powerful assets in strengthening libido.

Attention should also be paid to sleeping patterns. Sufficient rest is essential. Reduce caffeine and alcohol. Street drugs are not at all helpful. In addition to healthy foods and the right amount of sleep, daily fresh air and exercise are important. Unplug the television.

If communication or intimacy problems have become strong enough to interfere with libido, they can be difficult to resolve without professional assistance. However, it is not impossible to achieve success between loving and committed partners.

One technique that may be helpful is to take the focus off of sex and shift it to sensuality, engaging in massage and nonsexual touching. The purpose is to take the pressure off and enjoy the sensations, rather than focus on an end result.

Improving communication patterns are important. Don't bottle up anger and other emotions, but also learn how to express them in a respectful and productive manner. Don't be afraid to agree to disagree, winning or being right is not always the most important thing. Choose your battles well, and weigh them against the value of the relationship itself. Do not argue in the bedroom. And, sometimes, a relationship just is not meant to be. This is something that must be accepted. Sometimes, it is just time to move on.

A loss of libido is about much more than just sex. It is a signal, a sign, and it should not be ignored. Do not spend too much time trying home treatments. If these do not bring noticeable improvement, seek professional care. For the vast majority of men, a loss of libido is highly treatable.

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