Education On Contraception

Education on contraception will help you and your partner better plan for both your futures. Knowing ahead of time what your preferences are can avoid sensitive situations later on when discussing the matter with a partner.

What is family? Webster defines a family as a group of people closely related or a household. However, its meaning is different for all people. For most traditionalists it includes some sort of dynamic that includes children.

The yen for parenthood can be quite strong. Before one even look into their partner's captivating gaze thoughts of what their ideal family is supposed to be like permeates every thought or perception, whether consciously or subconsciously. The need to meet the urge to have a family can sometimes outweigh one's better judgement, leading many to dive headlong into parenthood without much fore thought of the enormity of the situation. Preparing beforehand and familiarizing one's self with the various aspects of family planning can aid in covering the issues with a future mate, giving the other person a clear understanding of your desires.

From issues of time to spacing, the number of children to have to birth control responsibility there are many things to consider when deciding to begin building a family. Knowing ahead of time what your preferences are can avoid sensitive situations later on when discussing the matter with a partner.

The Question of Children: To Have or Not

Many couples stumble over the issue of children. Many feel that their family is incomplete without them. Some feel pressure by family or society, as well as, basic human instincts to procreate because it is what is expected. They do not want to be thought of as pariahs because they do not desire or want the responsibility of having children.

Associated with childlessness is a view by others that the choice is because of selfishness. Couples or individuals can be made to feel guilty because they are unwilling to embrace the decision to have children. Many a partner has been blind-sided by their partner's lack of interest in bearing or rearing children. They often think that their partner's views can be changed by the introduction of a child whether or not the event is planned.

Many who choose not to have children, even when they do not have a current partner, choose to undergo sterilization procedures. This is done to avoid finding themselves in an unwanted situation, leaving little room for recriminations when they do find a partner later on.

The choice is rather more difficult for many others. Sometimes their choice not to have children is because they fear the unknown. Leading them to believe they would not make good or effective parents. They only parent that a child needs is one that is committed to the cause of child rearing and stays for the duration.

It is not a matter to be taken lightly. Parenting is not a part-time affair. It is a job that has high demands with sometimes little reward. Still, motivation to have a child sometimes thrusts individuals or couples to pursue the goal with much fervor, sometimes without much fore thought of the consequences. Taking the time to evaluate the needs, wants and commitments may make clearer the objective. Society embraces the idea of procreation, but it is not a choice for everyone. Some may like to novelty of the idea, but find they are not committed to the idea, leaving behind quite tragic situations.

Perfect Timing

The debate continues once the choice to have children is made. The next step is timing. Many choose to wait for the perfect conditions to have the first child, while others enthusiastically embrace parenthood the minute the 'I do's' is completed. After coming to the decision to include children into the family dynamic, when a child should be introduced into it cannot always be perfectly planned out.

Several factors weigh in on the expectant outcome from fertility to complications. Some get easily pregnant then have a subsequently more difficult time trying to get pregnant the next time. If the road to adoption is the only option then legalities and cost can stand in the way.

Timing and spacing is another key issue that often arises in family planning issues. But sometimes it is never what is expected. Various arguments abound in the matter of spacing of children. There are drawbacks and benefits to both close and lengthy separations between offspring. There are no guarantees that a perfect situation can be achieved by spacing closely or further apart.

Temperaments play a factor on whether children get along whether close in age or not. Spacing is more a question of what is more convenient for parents then siblings. Some parents think that having children close in age will automatically produce a friendlier atmosphere. Others think that putting a larger age gap between siblings encourage mentoring from the older child to the younger. However, these situations are only an ideal. Children are volatile and nothing can guarantee a desired outcome.

Children close in age can rely on each other more than those that have a larger age gap. They become self-made playmates for each other. If children are the same gender they can, often times, be drawn to similar interests. They often learn from and begin to rely on each other. However, the drawback in having children close in age can be the tendency to group them together. Sometimes they become synonymous with each other and eventually they yearn to emphasize or establish their own identity leaving the other behind.

With the advancement of fertility treatments many siblings are born at the same time despite gender. Multiples rely and stimulate each other more equally and more often than children close in age. They even seem to communicate to each other in unique ways that only they can understand.

Many children develop at varying degrees and when they are close in age or a multiple the variances in development is often personified. There is more competition and more demand on the parents' time, especially in the formative years.

Children spaced close together in age can be exhausting and overwhelming to some parents, but a trade-off they are willing to accept to get the early stages of childhood over with at a certain timeframe. Having children at varying developmental levels can lead to times of frustration for a child. When they are younger it is difficult for them to grasp the concept of their parents' divided attention.

That is not to say that the same cannot be true of children further apart in age. Having children with greater spans of times allows for more one on one time with each child. While older kids are involved in other activities, time can be spent with a younger child. Older children can help teach a mentor their younger siblings, if they are much older they tend to take on a role of additional caretaker.

Every type of age relation can be both beneficial and a disadvantage. Great lengths of time between siblings can also lead to a more distant relationship with each other. However, there is no guarantee that children close in age will be best friends either. Many factors play a part of how children get along. Temperament, varying interests to how secure each child feels in their place within the family can influence the dynamics of the unit. The most important thing to consider is personal preference and not what others think.

The Contraceptive Factor

When the family unit is complete the next issue that arises in family planning is who takes responsibility of contraception. There are various methods of that can be utilized to achieve this end. Oral, injection and implanted contraceptives, as well as IUD or diaphragm and periodic abstinence can be a temporary yet effective way to avoid any unwanted pregnancy. However, these methods are not 100 percent fool proof, but they do afford a couple or individual to change their mind if they decide to continue to expand their family.

For those who are absolutely sure that they are no longer going to add to their family unit, the most effective way to keep another pregnancy from occurring is to undergo a surgical procedure. Deciding on who undergoes the sterilization can be a difficult debate for some but quite simple for others. Most women opt to take on the responsibility by having tubal ligation especially postpartum. However, a vasectomy is an option that the male can elect to do, if he so chooses. It is a less risky procedure for the male to undergo. One in 1000 women does have some sort of complication from surgery but most can be treated.

Some rely on breast-feeding to be an effective form of contraception, but there is no guarantee that breast-feeding with cause ovulation to cease. However, the risk of pregnancy is greatly reduced because menstruation and ovulation is often suppressed.

The decision should be based on the permanency of the situation. If a couple chooses to leave their options open then less permanent forms of contraception should be considered. Once a vasectomy or ligation is done there is only a slight chance that it can be reversed. Family planning is an issue that many do not wish to discuss, but knowing before hand and having a clear understanding can avoid unnecessary unpleasantness later on.

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