Effective Discipline Techniques For Teaching Your Children

Disciplining children is hard for many parents. Here a valuable effective discipline techniques that will make parenting/child care that much easier.

Children require many things from parents. The greatest challenge for parents come from the emotional requirements of child rearing. There are very few parents that need lessons in how to love their child, the most important emotional ingredient. But, a major dilemma occurs in knowing how best to discipline a child so that in the end we will have a happy, healthy adult with self-discipline. The questions that parents ask themselves often are, Am I too strict? Is my spouse too lenient? Will I spoil my child? Will my child learn to limit his or her self if I impose too many limits? All these questions are concerns for parents.

The most important concept of discipline is that it gives knowledge and skills. It is very different than punishment, which is the consequence of an unacceptable behavior. By incorporating a consistent, positive approach in your discipline techniques will minimize the need for punishment. Appropriate discipline techniques cannot be learned in five minutes, even as adults we are still learning. There will be times when adults will make mistakes, but the key is to be consistent and positive.

There are some important principles to discipline that should be practiced. First and foremost young infants need a safe environment this is entirely the parent's job. Discipline should begin when an infant becomes mobile. It is a mistake to wait until the child is two to three years of age, at this age if no discipline has been administered the child will be very difficult and assert their independence. Discipline should be geared to age-appropriate learning. Catch your child being good and praise him or her, constantly correcting mistakes is not enough. Above all else children learn by actions, do the right thing yourself. Nobody is as important to your child as you are, and they learn by watching you. Praise and hug liberally after the discipline discussion. Be sure your child knows you dislike a behavior not him or her.



For infants, safety is the most important concern. Infants are responsive to a sharp no or hot. They will learn your displeasure when your firm voice is accompanied by holding their hands if they scratch or pull. Older infants and toddlers need a structured environment that minimizes the risk of ruining vases or expensive equipment. Toddlers need a firm voice for discipline and a redirection toward acceptable playthings. You will need also to ignore your toddler on occasions, do not reward attention seeking behavior like tantrums. But you must limit problem behavior such as biting or hitting. Praise for a good job is of the utmost importance for a toddler and older infant.

Preschoolers need parents with unbelievable patience, fortitude and stamina. As a parent of a preschooler you will need to be clear and consistent with rules and expectations and you must repeat them often. You will need to acknowledge their complaints or actions and give them explanations on why it is or is not done said or behave a certain way. In cases there will be a need for removal now and talk later. If a child is hitting another child, it will be best to remove the child from the situation to a quiet physical isolation, followed with an explanation. This will help defuse a situation, give a message, and teach about consequences. Praise your toddler when they are doing a good job and when they have learned something.

School age children are barely a step above preschoolers they also need the same as preschoolers and opportunities to explain and express themselves. They need the opportunities to choose, if the house rule is bedtime at 8:00 p.m. and they wish an extra thirty minutes of viewing television. Then a choice can be implemented of viewing the extra thirty minutes of television that night and no television on the weekend. This will allow your child a choice and it will give them a valuable opportunity to make their own choice. They also need opportunities to solve problems. Give your child a chance to work at a problem that effects them, with a solution that is agreed upon by the child and you as their parent.

Adolescents will continue the limit testing that they started as infants. Even the best discipline system will be tested during adolescence. When disciplining adolescents they need a continual program, keep they same discipline techniques as when they were younger, but you will need to lengthen discussions. They need discussions on the long-term consequences of today's behavior. It will be much easier to have limit settings that is agreed on rather than imposed arbitrarily, although the parents must ultimately establish the limit boundary. You will need to set limits that increase according to your child's maturity and the ability to choose wisely.

Many doctors, organizations, and parents have different views on punishment. The American Academy of Pediatric unequivocally opposes corporal punishment in schools and asserts that in the family, punishment and restriction, when necessary must be immediate and not physically harmful to the child. Still other experts tolerate one swat on the bottom with an open hand, but decry anything more. Nevertheless, all parenting experts agree that there are better alternatives.

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