Being a parent is a difficult job. But becoming a teen parent is harder still. In addition to education, career, and marriage decisions, parenting a child can add tremendous stress to a young person's life.
If you are a teen parent or know someone who is, take time to explore the many varied resources that are available to help. First-time parents especially can benefit from the advice and experience of others, but even if you have more than one child, it's never too late to seek input or feedback.
1. Check the telephone yellow pages for social service agencies geared to teen parents. Organizations like Mentoring Moms link older, experienced women with young girls who are new to the mothering role. Education, socialization, and support are some of the goals for these organizations, so get involved to start reaping benefits that can make a difference in your life and that of your child.
2. Inquire at local churches. Some churches sponsor help for families in need, no matter the parents' ages. Contact larger churches that you can locate in the yellow pages or by driving past and inquire about family programs. Food cupboards, help with housing or utilities, and support groups for single, teen, or other parents may be available at no cost. Joining a church or worship center may lead to connections with members who can provide needed services, like a vehicle's oil change, at reduced or no fees. Plus you will get an opportunity to dress up and take your child out each week where you will meet other people in an upbeat environment that offers hope and comfort.
3. Browse the library's family resource section. Borrow free videos on following a budget, potty training your child, or finding a job. There are books galore on child-rearing that include topics like reading to your children to help educate them and learning to control your temper when disciplining. Ask a librarian for topics that you are unable to locate. Then use the computers free of charge to find information for continuing your education or locating a job or child care program.
4. Surf the Internet. Expand your quest for helpful materials by searching local or global centers of information. Try topics like "parenting" or "teenagers" and drill down from there to more specific subjects that interest you, such as where to get free immunizations or health checkups for your child or how to develop a job-related skills, such as computer literacy.
5. Ask someone you know. Perhaps you know an older woman who is successfully raising her children. Invite her over for tea and ask a few questions about managing finances or child discipline or another topic that is close to your heart. Chances are she will be glad to help out and flattered that you asked her. If a friendship develops, you will be able to learn from each other and provide support in times of need.
The only foolish question is the unasked one. Don't be afraid to step out in faith to find sources of information that can lead to a better life for your child and you.
