Do you know a woman who is going through menopause? Then you probably know someone who is struggling to manage a variety of annoying symptoms. Though some women sail through the midlife change with few or any indications aside from the cessation of their periods, others battle daily onslaughts of hot flashes, emotional surges, and encroaching dryness.
Because these symptoms are natural, they may resolve on their own with time. But if they persist or interfere with a woman's quality of life, it may become necessary to take a few steps to bring them under control. Here are a few suggestions that may help:
1. Keep a journal. Though night sweats and crying jags may seem frequent or endless, an objective charting of each significant occurrence will help you decide if they are becoming a burden or if you see them that way due to resulting discomfort. Research shows that writing about negative experiences for about 20 minutes three times a week can actually help someone feel in greater control of the situation and symptoms may ease.
2. Seek women's wisdom. Ask your mother how she handled "the change." You also can check with friends and older women who have already experienced this phase of life that you may know from community or social groups. Many helpful books are available from the library or in local bookstores. You also can browse Web sites for available information. Talk shows can be another source of professional expertise.
3. Make an appointment for an annual check-up. Ask your doctor for tips on handling discomfort from this stage of life. Natural therapies may be recommended along with adjustments to diet and physical activity. Medical tests can rule out other potential causes of your symptoms. Something as minor as a vitamin supplement may be all that is needed to reduce fatigue and help you feel better.
4. Get in shape. Low weight or extra pounds can add to a general feeling of discomfort or depression at this stage of life. Check with your doctor, a nutrition specialist, or one of the major health organizations like the American Heart Association or American Diabetes Association for information on getting to a healthy weight. Find out from your physician if you can exercise, how much, and how often, as well as what kind he or she might recommend for you, bearing in mind any special concerns such as arthritis, joint pain, etc.
5. Meet with a counselor. If you have persistent anxiety or depression, it may be a good idea to find a counselor to discuss potential underlying issues. A failed relationship, empty nest syndrome, or early retirement can play havoc with emotions during the midlife years.
6. Form social connections. Go out with your spouse to special events or fun activities. Spend time with relatives who need you, or you, them. Make time for friends and do something enjoyable. Studies show that people with six or more social connections each month have a significantly better level of mental health, and they tend to stay healthier and live longer than those who don't have social connections.
7. Cultivate a spiritual side. Read scriptures, attend worship services, and pray or meditate as you look to higher answers for today's concerns. You will feel better and perform longer than those who lack this important dimension.
Midlife symptoms can range from mild to moderate. Take care of your body and mind at this crucial stage and it will take care of you later.
