How To File For A Divorce: Attorney Vs Do It Yourself

You can file for divorce yourself or hire an attorney. Both choices have their pros and cons. Find out what you can expect with both choices.

A divorce is a stressful time in a person's life. It's not only the end of a relationship, but it also means that a family and a household are being torn apart. The cost of a divorce can also add to the stress, especially if money is tight. On the average, a divorce costs around two thousand dollars. Most of that money goes to an attorney, while the rest is court costs. If the divorce drags on while the husband and wife haggle about child custody, property division, alimony, et cetera, then the cost can run into thousands of dollars.

You can save yourself a lot of money by filing for divorce yourself, without the help of an attorney. If you and your spouse can sit down and agree on the terms of your divorce, then it can be a relatively simple process. This is what is known as a "no fault" divorce. That means that neither you nor your spouse or at fault. You two have decided, for reasons of your own, that you want your marriage to be terminated.

In order to file for a divorce without the help of an attorney, you'll need to gather the necessary paperwork. The paperwork varies from state to state, so you'll need to visit your local courthouse to find out what you specifically need. Basically, though, you need to file a petition with your local Domestic Relations Court. You'll also need to fill out and file other legal documents as well. The court should have some preprinted forms to help you out.


Once the petition and the other legal forms are filed, the court will process them. Your spouse will be served the official divorce papers by a Sheriff's Deputy or another authorized individual.

This will legally notify your husband or wife of your intentions. Again, if the two of you have agreed on the terms of the divorce, then your spouse doesn't need to take any action once he or she is served. They only need to appear in Domestic Relations Court on a specific date for the divorce to be officially granted by a judge.

While this process may sound like an easy way to get a divorce and save money at the same time, it's time consuming. Oftentimes, it can also be confusing unless you are familiar with the legal process of divorce.

Being that a divorce is such as stressful time, your spouse might change his or her mind about the agreed upon terms. If that should happen, you can still handle the matter yourself IF you and your husband or wife can renegotiate the terms. If you two can't agree, or if your spouse decides to obtain the services of an attorney, then you'll be forced to hire an attorney yourself. If you don't, then you'll have a serious disadvantage. An attorney has at least seven years of college education, along with legal experience behind them.

If, on the other hand, you hire an attorney in the first place, when you decide that you want a divorce from your husband or wife, your attorney will take care of most everything. He or she will explain your options and help you determine what you can get. That means child custody, alimony, visitation rights, the division of money and property, et cetera. You may also want to change your sir name back to your maiden name, and your attorney can take care of that too.

So basically, in exchange for a fee, an attorney can make your life easier, even though you're getting a divorce, by handling all of the legal matters for you.

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