What To Do If Your Kid Is Being Bullied

If your child is being bullied at school, you have to take action so that your child does not continue to be victimized. Whether it is physical or psychological bullying, you have a responsibility to your child to help.

As a parent, it is a natural instinct for you to feel compelled to protect your child from getting hurt, both physically and psychologically. At almost every school, there are some bullies and there are some kids who are targeted by the bullies. If your child is getting intimidated and picked on by another child or other children at school, you need to address the issue so that it stops.

Addressing the issue starts out at home. You need to have a talk with your kid about what's going on in his or her life. How did you find out that your child was being bullied? If you found out because your little one came home with bumps and bruises, then the situation is serious. Your child is getting beat up at school, and that is completely unacceptable. Ask your child who is responsible for this - you need names. Your child might be embarrassed and afraid to "tattle" on the bully or bullies that did this. You have to reassure your child that you will help, and that what the bully did was wrong and mean and it cannot be tolerated. Since the situation has clearly taken itself to the level of physical violence, you have no other choice than to talk to your child's teacher and to the school administration. How did something like this happen while your child was under their supervision? What will they do to ensure that it does not happen? You have to make it clear that whomever did this to your kid deserves to be punished, and beyond being punished, they need to be talked to so that they understand why their behavior was so blatantly hurtful and cruel. It is likely that the child who is a bully has some underlying problems that have nothing whatsoever to do with your child, and that your child was just being used as a human punching bag that the bully used to deflect his latent problems. You should request that a meeting be held between the bully's parents, yourself, the kids' teacher, and the school administration. Disciplinary action should be taken by the school against the bully so that he or she comprehend that bullying is not the right way to express oneself. You can't be sure that the bully's parents will punish their child, and that is why it is crucial that the school does - it is quite possible that the bully's parents are not as involved in their child's life and development as they should be, and that could be the root of their kid's bad behavior. Explain to your child that bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and low self-confidence, and that it is not your child's fault, nor is it fair that they are bearing the brunt of another child's frustrations. You should raise your child to be a compassionate person, even showing compassion towards someone who has been a bully.

If you found out that your child was being picked on in a psychological, not physical, way, then you have to understand that emotional abuse is every bit as painful as physical abuse, especially for a child. If your child is the subject of jokes by a certain classmate or by a group of students, then your child is likely to feel very hurt and embarrassed to be at school. It is immensely painful for a child to be scrutinized by his or her peers, especially when the scrutiny comes on a daily basis. Your first step should be teaching your child to stand up for him or herself in some way. Your child needs to be self-assured - he or she has to know that the torment is not warranted. Talk to your child's teacher when you first find out about the problem so that he or she can be more conscious of what is going on in the classroom. If your child is seated near the bully, demand that the seating arrangement be changed to accommodate your child. Explain to the teacher that you know it is hard to see every problem that goes on between his or her students, and that is why you felt that it was imperative that you bring the situation to his or her attention. Let the teacher know that if the problem persists, you will have to bring it to the attention of the school administration.

If your kid just can't seem to get a break from bullies, you have a big problem. There are some kids in every school who are relentlessly bullied and picked on by other students, and it is very hard to get them to stop. If this is the case for your child, and the problem has gone on for a school year or more, then you have to take more drastic measures to ensure your child's well-being. If your child continues to be bullied in this way, it could be very psychologically damaging. You should consider sending your child to a different school altogether. This may sound like a bold move, but when your kid is involved, sometimes you have to be bold. You should also try to get your child to talk to a counselor so that he or she can recover from the emotional wounds that have been inflicted by bullies. Most importantly, your child has to know that you will stop at nothing to ensure his or her happiness and safety.

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