How to Last Longer in Bed With Cream

By Lynette DiPalma

  • Overview

    If you've had trouble with premature ejaculation, or you would simply like to be able to perform those marathon sex sessions that celebrities and sex therapists brag about, then a desensitizing cream may do the trick. These creams may be purchased just about anywhere that specializes in adult toys and prophylactics, but they may also be prescribed by your physician if the premature ejaculation has become a major problem for you.
    • Step 1

      Read all the warnings and instructions on the tube. Understanding the particular product you have chosen will give you the best results, since some will begin to work slowly over a long time period while others may work instantly but wear off faster.
    • Step 2

      Inspect your genital region to make sure there are no pre-existing skin irritations or wounds. Desensitizing cream reduces your ability to recognize pain as well as pleasure, so it's best not to use it if you've experienced a recent injury or infection. The cream can also encourage the spread of yeast and other infections, so avoid using anything other than a condom if you're experiencing this kind of outbreak.


    • Step 3

      Squeeze a small amount of the cream directly onto your genitals. The less contact the cream has with your hands the better, since it will also desensitize your fingers.
    • Step 4

      Gently rub the cream into your skin, allowing it to absorb completely. Since the goal is to avoid premature ejaculation, you'll want to avoid vigorous rubbing because this may cause you to become overly aroused before the cream begins to work.
    • Step 5

      Begin regular intercourse as soon as you feel the numbing sensation. You'll still be able to feel just enough to stay aroused and to enjoy yourself, but it should take much longer for you to reach climax.
    • Step 6

      Apply more cream if you feel yourself reaching climax too quickly or if you and your partner decide to have intercourse multiple times.
    • Skill: Easy
    • Tip: Make the application of the cream part of foreplay to really get the full benefits.
    • Warning:
    • Only use as much cream as necessary to create the numbing effect desired. Using more than you need will not only numb you to the point that it may not be quite as enjoyable, but it may also rub off on your partner and numb her as well.
    • Avoid using desensitizing cream during oral sex since this will cause numbness in your partner's mouth, and can cause her to bite her tongue or cheek accidentally during intercourse or later during a post-coital snack.

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