How to Last Longer During Sex

By Yvette Clark

  • Overview

    On average, a man lasts about 5 minutes during sex --- with a number of men clocking in around only one or two minutes. If you want to fully please your partner and last longer during sex, it takes practice, focus and a change in mindset. When you focus on these three things, though, you'll find that you will slowly build up more endurance and will eventually be able to extend your lovemaking as long as you want.
    • Step 1

      Practice by yourself to help you understand how your body feels immediately before you ejaculate. Masturbate to the point where you are about to ejaculate, then stop and allow the feeling to recede. Repeat several times in a single session so you can develop the awareness and focus to avoid ejaculation.
    • Step 2

      Think about sex as an exploration of your partner that begins with a touch rather than thinking of sex as limited to intercourse with the clear goal of orgasm. The pressure to perform can lead to many sexual problems, from impotence to premature ejaculation. Creating a sense of exploration rather than one of expectation can extend your sexual experience.


    • Step 3

      Extend your foreplay, focusing on giving your partner pleasure. Generally, it's direct stimulation that leads to an early orgasm. If you focus on stimulating your partner, not only will you be able to go longer, your partner will be more satisfied.
    • Step 4

      Choose sexual positions that reduce the friction on your penis. For example, side-to-side positions reduce friction, as do positions where the woman is on top. Explore a variety of positions to find the ones the work for both you and your partner.
    • Step 5

      Withdraw your penis when you feel like you are at the edge of ejaculating, putting your masturbation practice into effect. Pressing on your perineum, or having your partner press it, will further allow you to avoid ejaculating.
    • Step 6

      Focus on bringing your partner to orgasm first, which can help sex last longer, especially if your partner is a woman. Women generally stay aroused for a longer time after orgasm than do men, so you can bring your own arousal back up after her orgasm for longer sex.
    • Skill: Moderate
    • Tip: After your first ejaculation, you will last longer if you become aroused again shortly after. If you do ejaculate earlier than you want, stay focused on your partner and slowly build up your arousal.
    • Warning:
    • Avoid sprays, lotions and pills that proclaim they'll allow you to last longer in bed. Most don't work, and those that do often rely simply on reducing the sensations you feel during sex.

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