It’s easy to be a great daughter to your parents since you’ve known them all your life and know what they expect out of you, but how about being a great daughter-in-law? This is the new family you have recently become a part of. When you married your mother- and father-in-law’s son, little did you know you were also marrying into his family core. It’s almost like getting an additional set of parents. What are some things you can do and keep in mind to become a great daughter in law?
Chances are if you’ve married the typical guy he only has a slight idea when his parents’ and siblings’ birthday are. Once you’ve established yourself in the family, keep a list of important dates, like birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, so you can call or send a card to them at the appropriate times. They will definitely appreciate this gesture and be honored that you remembered them during their special day.
Unless you have married a mama’s boy, chances are your husband won’t be calling his family as often as he used to, now that he’s got you to depend on. Make sure you encourage your new husband to call his family every so often to keep abreast of the family news and happenings. You will also want to make sure you attend any of the family events you are able to, like graduation parties, anniversary parties and holiday events. Your in-laws will appreciate the fact that you are keeping the family bond close at heart.
While it may be tempting to become very familiar with the new family very quickly, don’t jump into family arguments right away. If there is some kind of family argument going on and you feel that somebody is being irrational in their behavior, don’t start putting in your two cents too soon. While what you may say may be wise and insightful, that does not necessarily mean that your new in-laws will see it this way. It’s like that old saying goes between a husband and wife: I can talk about my family all I want but you can’t talk about my family. It’s hard enough accepting criticism from your own family, but it is not at all easy accepting advice and criticism from outside the family.
If your new mother-in-law loves scrapbooking or your new father-in-law loves fishing, take an interest in their hobbies. People love to talk about what they do for fun, so they will enjoy the fact that you have expressed some interest in this. Ask your mother-in-law for advice on how to start your wedding scrapbook or go with your husband and father-in-law to their next fishing trip. This will show your sincere desire to become close with their own family.
The most important thing you can do to be a great daughter-in-law is to treat their son with respect and love. A mother-in-law and a father-in-law, above everything, simply want to know that their son is happy and loved, so be sure you do just that.
