5 reasons it's time for a divorce

Although researchers have found that most Americans believe in, and want to be involved in, the sanctity of marriage, nearly half of those same people end up in divorce court. Sometimes, a marriage can be reconciled, even after the husband or the wife has committed adultery. At other times, though, wedded bliss can't be achieved, and it's time to divorce.

Everyone has their own opinions on what makes a marriage happy and, what makes a marriage miserable. Some people can tolerate more hurt, pain, and loneliness than others. Therefore, the man or the woman who can tolerate more will undoubtedly stay married longer, even though the union is far from the wedded bliss they imagined when they said "I Do."

So, how do you know that it's time for a divorce? From a general standpoint, there are five reasons why it's time for any man or woman to get divorced.

Reason 1 - Abuse

There are many reasons why a husband or wife abuses his or her spouse. Usually, the abuser is trying to gain control their husband or wife by slapping, hitting, or verbally insulting them. The abuse can be physical, verbal, sexual, or a combination of all three. All types of abuse lead to emotional hurt and pain for the victim.

No one, no matter what sex, age, gender, or color, you are, deserves to be abused!

If you're in an abusive marriage, you should remove yourself and your children, if you have any, from the situation as soon as you can. Then, either file for a divorce yourself, or seek the advice of an attorney.

Reason 2 - Bigamy

Bigamy can be defined as, "the act of marrying another man or woman while you are already married." Being married to more than one person at a time is illegal in the United States. Still, that doesn't stop men and women from engaging in this practice.

If you find out that your husband or wife is married to more spouses than just you, then it's time for a divorce. You should start divorce proceedings, and, you should seek the advice of an attorney immediately. Why? Because, besides the fact that your spouse has betrayed your love and trust, he or she being married to at least one other person means that he has legal obligations, debts, et cetera, that will also affect your situation.

Reason 3 - Desertion

A marriage usually has its ups and downs, because, no one is perfect, and life isn't always fair. If two people work together, then their relationship can usually handle the toughest of times.

Sometimes, though, either the husband or the wife can't deal, or refuses to deal, with the hard times of life. Thinking of only themselves, they then walk out on their spouses and children. A deserter often blocks out their past. This includes their responsibilities to their spouses, children, creditors, and more.

If you are a victim of desertion, it's time to end your disastrous marriage. It's time to pick yourself up and get on with your own life.

Reason 4 - Adultery/Infidelity

Your husband or wife commits an act of adultery or infidelity. They realize the terrible mistake they made, and they make an honest effort to save your marriage. You talk the situation over, you work things out, and your marriage is saved. Until... you find out that they have done it again!

Some men and women have a problem being committed to one person in their life. Their fear of commitment can stem from a variety of reasons. Maybe their parents had a bad marriage and they fear the same for themselves. Or, maybe the idea of being with one person for all of their life seems boring and unexciting to them.

Whatever their reason, marriage is a commitment between two people. So, if they can't make a commitment to you and you alone, then it's time to go to court. It will be the best choice for your children too.

Reason 5 - Illegal Drug and/or Alcohol Abuse

One common mistake both men and women make after they get married, is thinking that they can change their partner. Sometimes, on rare occasions, a spouse can be changed for the better. But, people can only change if they are willing to. So, oftentimes, the spouse finds themselves wedded to a man or a woman who has bad habits. Maybe even destructive habits such as drug and/or alcohol abuse.

Both of these abuses can cause the person who is taking illegal drugs or drinking alcohol to abuse their spouses and/or their children.

If your husband or wife is addicted to illegal drugs or alcohol, and they won't seek professional help in order to stop their habit, then its time for you to get a divorce.