Weddings are one of the most special days in a person's life. No matter what type of wedding a couple has be it traditional, contemporary, modern, large and extravagant to small and simple people put a lot of time, money and effort into having their special day be absolutely perfect. At some point in time, it is customary that someone give a speech. So, you're the best-man, a close friend or relative, or some other honorary person chosen to present a speech at a wedding. So, now what? Here are some ideas, suggestions, tips and things to consider when giving a speech at a wedding.
1. Be prepared in advance:
Prior to the wedding, plan out and write down all the things you want to say. Make yourself some notes. This will help keep you focused, organized and mistakes minimized. Make sure you spend ample time practicing what you're going to say and how you're going to present it so you're totally ready when it's finally show time.
2. Remember where you are and who you're talking to:
Generally the person or people getting married are ones you know quite well. They're usually relatives, best friends or very good, close friends. Keep in mind everyone who's in attendance. Some may be divorced, have sensitive situations or things that shouldn't be discussed or brought up in the public arena.
3. Consider your audience:
This is a continuation of number two. Don't say things that are in bad taste, embarrass or belittle the person you're talking about or make anyone feel bad or upset. Don't hurt anyone's feelings. Don't tell inappropriate jokes. Don't go into detail of past adventures, good times, wild parties etc. Now is the time to be sensitive not inconsiderate or inappropriate.
4. Express your genuine feelings:
Don't be afraid to express yourself. In regards to the couple and their special day, let them know what's in your heart and on your mind.
Offer the newlyweds your best wishes for the future and enthusiastically toast their new life together. This is your chance for creativity, let it flow! You can also quote poems, song lyrics etc. That may help you to say what you're feeling.
5. Personalize it:
This is a continuation of number four. Try not to be generic. Personalize your speech as much as possible. This makes what you have to say more powerful, special and meaningful to the couple and all those in attendance.
6.Try to keep it short and sweet:
Don't ramble on and on, try to be direct and to the point. People are there for the bride and groom. Although your speech is an important component, it's not the main attraction.
7. Speak when it's your time to speak:
As noted earlier, some weddings are planned down to the last little detail. If you have a set time for your speech, do it then. If not, wait until there's an appropriate time. Speeches, well wishes and toasts usually occurs after the ceremony at the reception.
8. Speak loudly and clearly:
You want to ensure everyone clearly sees, hears and understands you.
9. Body language is so important:
Good posturing, hand positioning and eye contact are also important. These things convey to people that you're confident and that your words are sincere and genuine.
10. Relax
Don't be too stressed out. If you're prepared, all should go smoothly.
Giving a speech at a wedding is a wonderful honor and great way to express yourself to those you love and care about on their special day. If you take your time and plan ahead - your words will be remembered for many years to come.
