The first [attraction] is the picture. If you're attracted physically to that picture, then you progress to the next one which is the written voice. From there you're going to engage in a kind of getting-to-know-you flirtation at the written level. There is some chemistry there. You'll either connect with them or you won't. The mistake people often make is they think if there is chemistry in the writing or pictures, there will also be at the verbal level when you actually connect through the telephone. People put a lot of fantasy and expectation into the written voice of their ideal person. It's really not a smart thing to progress to a physical meeting when this happens, because it will only get worse. You may talk for 2-3 weeks, but don't go beyond that, because a fantasy and insecurity starts to build. If there is a physical chemistry there, it's a good thing. A lot of times, the lack of chemistry is a very disappointing thing about internet dating.
