Parenting Help To Issues Concerning Attitudes In Children

"We become our parents." This usually holds true for children once they grow up. Hence, children who are raised with a generally good upbringing by their parents most often grow up as responsible and caring adults.

It is the parents' responsibility to raise their children in the best possible way. And this usually starts with verbal signs, followed by action.

The following 13 words are the most important words parents can teach their children and help them grow up with a positive attitude towards life.



I LOVE YOU. Let your child know he or she is loved. Say the words often and let him learn to say it back. It is good for parents to say the words even if their child has made a mistake. It's never a bad thing to always say "I love you." Let your child learn to say "I love you" and mean it. If your child hears you express those words often, he or she will realize the importance of the words and will learn to say it and love others.

I UNDERSTAND. When your child makes a mistake, admits it and tells you how sorry he or she is, let him or her know that he or she is forgiven. Tell your child you understand him or her. Your child needs understanding from you and giving your child the assurance that you do understand will put him or her at ease. Your child will know that he or she can come to you for advice or tell you something important simply because you understand.

I AM SORRY. People make mistakes. You make mistakes and so does your child. When you make a mistake -- say, you got angry with your child about something you thought he did but he didn't really -- don't hold back from your child. Get down from your parent pedestal and tell your child you're sorry. If you make your child realize that making mistakes is OK and that saying the simple words "I am sorry" helps a lot in the healing and forgiveness process, he will not be too proud to admit or own up to mistakes he may commit further on in his or her life.

THANK YOU. Teach your child the importance of gratitude! Show your child when to say thank you. Let your child see that no matter how simple or small a good deed is, the person who did it needs to be thanked for. When your child does something good, thank him and praise him for his good deed. Teach him to be polite to others.

YOU ARE WONDERFUL. Praise your child. Let him know his importance by saying how wonderful he is. This will make him feel good about himself or herself. When he does, he will have a positive outlook and will tend to treat others with kindness and respect. Be lavish with your praises and let your child know that you are always there to support him. Encourage your child in his every undertaking and let your child know what a good job he or she is doing.

There they are! The 13 most important words you, the parent, can teach your child. As the parent, you are your child's guide and the only way he will fully learn these words and realize their significance is if you yourself practice saying these words and take them to heart!

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