A Parent's Guide To Better Behaved Children

A parent's guide to better behaved children: Find the out how to have a better behaved child!

Just about every parent has been frustrated with their child's bad behavior at some time or another. No child can be perfect all the time, there are times when children will act out or misbehave no matter what. But if your child is routinely disruptive or behaves badly, there are a few things you can do to improve his or her overall behavior.

Positive Reinforcement

Most children will respond well to positive reinforcement. Giving them compliments or rewards for things and behaviors that you approve of will motivate them to do more of these favorable things. It doesn't have to be a large gift: children are happy with small items or bonuses such as getting to stay up 15 minutes later at night. When children see that they are consistently being praised and awarded for good behaviors, they will attempt to earn more of these praises and awards by continuing the good behaviors. Just by giving your child a few positive words each day, he or she will become a better behaved child.

Talk "To" Them Not "At" Them

Children just like adults need to be talked "to" not "at." Ask your child to do a particular task in a polite way. Not only will this make the child more likely to comply with your instructions, but it will teach the child how to ask for something in a polite way, instead of barking orders or making demands.

Don't yell at the child. Yelling makes everyone uncomfortable and nervous. Adults wouldn't want their boss or their spouse yelling at them to do something, and neither does a child. Asking in a polite but firm voice will yield more positive results.

Be Consistent

You should establish a firm set of rules and guidelines that you expect your child to follow. He or she should know what you expect and what the consequences will be if the rules are broken.

It may help you to establish a set of consequences such as a 10 minute time-out for the first rule broken, being grounded or sent to his or her room for the second broken rule, etc. The punishments selected should be age appropriate. Putting a three year old in time out for an hour will probably cause more of the bad behavior that put him there in the first place. Your child should be aware that there will be consequences for his or her bad behaviors, and you should always stick to your rules of punishment. If you let the child get away with the behavior once, they will attempt to get away with it again.

Spend Quality Time Together

Set aside at least 20 or 30 minutes a day to spend quality time alone with your child. Many children will attempt to gain attention from their parents, even if it is NEGATIVE attention. If your child knows that they can expect to get 30 minutes of your undivided attention each day, they will less likely to misbehave just to gain your attention.

If your child is misbehaving just to get your attention, try to ignore the behavior. Once the child sees that he won't get your attention this way, he should stop the behavior. If you are spending the 30 minutes of quality time with the child each day, tell him that you will subtract a minute of quality time for each minute you have to spend disciplining the bad behaviors.

There are no guarantees on what will work for each individual child. A firm set of rules and guidelines and a lot of praise and respect can help your entire family deal with bad behaviors much more effectively. After utilizing the guidelines discussed here, along with ones you know to work for your child, your should see an improvement in your child's behavior within weeks.

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