Preparing Child For A First Filling

If your child is facing a dental appointment for a filling, here are some ways to reassure her before and during the visit:

1. Explain the procedure. Chances are the dentist already told your child what to expect. You can reinforce the explanation by stating matter-of-factly what will happen, from the anesthetic to the drilling, along with sensory impressions involving what your child will see and hear during treatment. Of course, you don't need to offer this information unless your child asks for it or seems upset. Ultimately, though, a parent can provide comfort and security when a child is worried about a medical or dental treatment.

2. Use neutral words. Avoid terms like "shot," "needle," "prick," "hurt," and so on. Instead, use more general words that sound harmless, such as "injection" or "numb." Put a positive face on the treatment to help your child see that getting a filling is a benefit, not a punishment:

"Aren't we lucky to have a dentist who can find and take care of these things so quickly?"

"At least it's a baby tooth, so perhaps your permanent teeth will be all right."

3. Emphasize the positive. Point out that the visit will take just minutes (probably less than an hour), the dentist and assistant are nice people, the toothache will go away, and the child gets to keep the tooth rather than lose it. Putting an upbeat spin on the visit will help your little one relax and focus on the good aspects rather than the negative ones. You might even want to offer a tasty treat after the numbness wears off or stop by the park for a few minutes on the playground before returning to school.

4. Remind your child that it's common. Everyone goes to the dentist, and most people need tooth fillings at times. You might want to ask someone who's been to the dentist recently, in front of your child, to talk about how easy it was or how soon it was over. Testimonials of this type can help to reassure your child that she's not the only person in the universe to face this dreaded event.

5. Stay calm in the waiting room. If you're nervous, the child may pick up on cues. You may want to ask the dentist if you can accompany her to the treatment room for emotional support if she becomes unduly upset. Most kids do just fine on their own, but occasionally one may need a little extra encouragement.

Between dental visits, emphasize the importance of good hygiene and oral care. Tell your child that brushing, flossing, and rinsing can help to prevent cavities for next time. This may go a long way in helping your son or daughter develop a healthy oral hygiene routine.