How to prepare your family when a new born is about to be added to the family so they will feel welcome.
In nine months there will be a new addition to your family. Your only child has not had to share you or anything else before. How will they deal with they are not the only child anymore and they will have to share their space and you? Can they adapt to this situation and everyone be happy or will you have problems?
Once you know you are about to add a new addition to the family whether it's through birth or adoption, you should let your child know as soon as possible. Don't wait until right before things are going to happen before you tell them the news. Children are like anyone else, they don't like surprises. Talk to your child about the new addition so they will feel like they are a part of it and it's not something that you are trying to hide from them. If you keep it a secret they will feel like something is wrong and will automatically have negative feelings about the situation. You want them to feel like they are a part of what's about to happen so they won't feel ignored. Talk to them about how all of you will become one big happy family and you will be there for them and the new member also.
When you don't communicate with them about what's going on, that's when they feel like you won't be there for them anymore and that's how negative thoughts and attitudes happen. They needed to feel as much as involved as they possible can. Let them help in decorating the new room and getting ready for them. Make them feel they are a part of things and not being sat aside because someone new is joining the family. That's how resent begins and you don't want that to happen. They needed to feel they are wanted and needed as much as they were before an addition was about to be made to the family.
Having a baby or adopting a baby is a joyous occasion. You want to feel good about the new addition to the family and have your child feeling good about it also. Talking to them about the baby and letting them feel included in adding this new member is the best way to keep harmony in your household. Children love being the older sister or brother know matter how young they are. It makes them feel special and talking to them about it will give them that special feeling. The best way to prepare your household for a new addition is to let everyone know in the very beginning there will be a new member joining the family, so they can get use to the idea and feel like they are a part of bringing this new person aboard. Once they know and understand what's happening they can be a part of this occasion and will get as excited as you are about the new family member. This is one of the best times of your life. You want everyone to be included and be a part of a major milestone that is happening in your life. Share with everyone especially your children so they can be as happy as you are about your new family member.
