All About The Psychology Of Eye Contact And How It Relates To Attraction

Making eye contact or avoiding it, when introduced to a stranger sends immediate information about you to your acquaintance.Looking a person in the face, while acknowledging an introduction will say this: I think well of myself and I highly regard you also.People are drawn to that.Without analyzing the issues of self-centeredness and pride, you need to know that a healthy sense of self-worth makes for a likeable person.And make no mistake; a good self esteem is not the same as prideful egoism.Not at all, in fact the self confidence and assuredness conveyed by direct eye contact puts your acquaintance at ease, making you both comfortable.

On the other hand, failing to look a person in the eye upon introduction makes everyone uncomfortable.Averting your eyes leaves the stranger guessing: is this person shy? Nervous?Is he deceitful?Does he have something to hide?Or perhaps the person you are meeting will be left feeling insecure about herself and wonder: Is there something he doesn't like about me?Am I unattractive?Not worthy of his time or friendship?You have absolutely no control of the information you may be sending with your lack of eye contact.Most likely the message is full of misinformation about you, or how you feel about them.This situation is unfortunate and completely avoidable.Just make eye contact, add a smile and word of greeting and you may have the start of a fulfilling relationship.

Meeting people and making a positive impression is a great first step, but there is more.All relationships need to grow.They have to be developed, and again eye contact plays an important role.Children are aware of how important eye contact is.A small child will reach for his mother's face and draw her attention to his own face to tell her something.It is important to the child that he be heard.People, both children and adults, want attention when they speak.It assures them that you are listening with your ears if they can see you listening with your eyes.It's your eyes that tell them they have your attention.

But beware!Your eyes give away your emotions. It's hard to hide boredom, hurt, anger, or hopelessness when looking someone in the eye.Then again, be encouraged! Through eye contact you can share feelings that are too meaningful for words.Your sincere thoughts of love, pleasure, joy, or hope can almost be heard while you gaze at your friend without a word being spoken.

So initially, eye contact can lead you to a relationship.Good use of eye contact will help you to successfully cultivate a relationship.Appropriate and frequent eye contact can be just what you need to sustain a fulfilling relationship.And finally, eye contact is an important step to intimacy.Parent to child, friend to friend, lover to lover, all relationships rely on degrees of intimacy.The depth of all of your relationships will be enhanced by making efforts to look a person in the face; then listen to them, and speak to them with your eyes.