Free Sample Wedding Vows: 5 Secular Ideas

Writing your own vow is an important task, but it can also be one of the most rewarding ways to express your feelings about your love.

A wedding is one of the most incredible and exciting events you will ever experience.You want the day to be special, as special and unique as your relationship. After all, you are pledging your love and devotion to another person for a lifetime.But sometimes transforming that love and devotion into words can be almost as trying and difficult as the journey you have taken to find your soulmate!

Seven years ago when my husband and I were planning our wedding, we knew two things for certain: we wanted to write our own vows and we wanted our wedding to be decidedly non-traditional.I spent weeks coming up the perfect blend of words that symbolized my feelings for this perfect man that I was pledging my life to.I spoke of love, of patience, and of nature.I included nature because we were getting married in a wooded state park overlooking a lake as the sun was setting.Afraid I would be too nervous that I might forget my vows, I typed them up to read to my beloved.

As the day inched closer and closer, I began to get a very anxious.I knew that my husband-to-be had not even begun to gather his thoughts, let alone write any of them down!I wanted my wedding to be absolutely perfect, and memorable because it was breathtaking"¦not because the groom stammered and stuttered his way through "Uh, um, I love you"¦" I should have had more faith in him though.He never did write anything down, but spoke only from his heart and in the end there was not a dry eye in the park!

For those of you not willing to roll the dice and extemporize, then some planning is in order.Some people want nothing but tradition on their wedding day.For them planning is almost easier, customary practices will dictate their ritual.It will take place in a church, with a long white gown, and she will take him for richer or poorer, he will take her in sickness and health.For the rest of you who want to personalize your ceremony, here are five samples of vows for a secular ceremony, as well as some phrases and words you can use to create your own.

Sample Vows:

Where there has been cold,

You have brought warmth;

When I have been weak,

You have brought me strength.

In times of darkness,

You were my shining light.

(Name), I vow to you today

to share, with you, experience with you, and love with you from this day forward.

Let us become two souls in one life,

and let us always value and respect each other.

You bring me inspiration, strength, and passion.

You enrich my life in ways I never imagined possible.

The spirit within your essence has enveloped mine,

Joining our lives in a beautiful dance of love and devotion.

I pledge my heart and my soul to you,

To dance this dance for all of eternity.

Together we have faced adversity and uncertainty,

And we have conquered it.

We have faced difficulties and challenges,

And again we have conquered.

You are my strength, my partner, my confidant.

So today I promise to give to you all I am and all I shall grow to be.

Take this ring, and with it my pledge of devotion, tolerance, and love,

for the rest of my life.

Today I unite my life with yours, not only as your (husband/wife),

but as your friend, your lover, and your confidant.

Let me be the shoulder you lean on,

The arms that give you strength,

The teacher from which you learn.

With you I will journey life's path from this day forward.

In my dreams, I have always known you.

Walked by your side,

Gained from your wisdom,

Shared in your fortune,

And grown in spirit together with you.

This day I pledge to you to continue to grow,

To gain, to share with you, side by side

All the rest of my days.

In my dreams, I have always known you,

In my life, I will always love you.

Sample phrases:

In darkness and in light

For all eternity

With all the depth and breadth and heights my soul can reach

Your love has enriched me

Built on mutual love, honesty and respect

I offer to you all that I have and all that I am

From now until the end of time

I pledge my heart, my soul, my life to you

You illuminate my soul

May our love prosper and grow

Words to consider:

Nouns:companion, comrade, partner, soulmate, ally, best friend, spirit, treasure,

counterpart, hero, and teacher

Verbs: love, devotion, loyalty, cherish, hope, patience, accept, adore, declare, embrace,

support, respect, protect, desire, encourage, inspire, value and endeavor

Characteristics:strong, independent, supportive, dependable, intelligent, generous,

humble, honest, sincere, compassionate and gentle

Writing your own vows can be a daunting and overwhelming task, but it can also be one of the most rewarding.That moment when you look into the eyes of your soulmate and see that the spirit within you has become one with the spirit within them - and that you have captured that with your carefully chosen words - gives you more than a sense of satisfaction and pride.It gives you the perfect foundation to begin building your new life together!

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