Senior Dating Tips

Seniors sometimes have a tough time re-entering the dating world, but there are several ways to meet other single seniors.

Be Open

If you were married for many years and your spouse is now deceased, you may be having a hard time re-entering the dating scene.You aren't sure how to go about meeting other single seniors, and you are possibly dealing with feelings of guilt just because you are contemplating finding a new relationship.Guilt is a nasty little emotion, and it can be difficult to overcome.However, you have to acknowledge that as a widow or widower, you do not deserve to feel guilty about trying to reestablish your life.You are not being unfaithful or selfish.You are not replacing your former spouse.Rather, you are looking to write a new chapter in your life, the next chapter.You aren't erasing the past, you are forging towards the future -- and you are acknowledging that you are worthy of having a happy and satisfying romantic future.If your anxiety about meeting other single seniors is so intense that you cannot seem to make the first step, you should consider seeking professional therapy or grief counseling.

Get Online

Don't be afraid of computers and technology.They have really changed the face of the dating industry, and it's very easy to get involved.Online dating has some advantages over regular dating.You can exchange e-mails with the men or women that you are interested in so that you can get to know them well before meeting in person.For many seniors, there is tremendous social anxiety associated with dating, and online dating can help to curb that anxiety.You can also build friendships with other seniors without having to elevate those friendships to a romantic level.If you decide that you want to meet someone that you have been conversing with via e-mails, make sure that you do so in a public place, and always bring along a trusted family member or friend - just in case.The downside of online dating is that you can never be sure that the people you talk to are who they say they are, and it is always better to be safe than sorry during your first face-to-face meeting.

Ask Around

Tell your friends and family members that you are looking to begin dating again.Don't be shy about it!It is nothing to be ashamed of, and you may wind up having many exciting blind dates set up as a result of asking around.Blind dates aren't just for twenty-somethings!If you don't have a romantic spark with someone that you are paired up with, you still might meet some interesting and fun new friends.Also, you should consider dating people within fifteen years of your age - don't limit yourself too narrowly, and that goes for both men and women.



Community Groups

Check with your town about senior groups that you can get involved with.In many areas, there are social clubs where you can go to meet other single seniors that live locally.For example, in Denver, Colorado, there is a senior group called "The Denver League," and local seniors participate in various activities together, such as dining, swimming, playing board and card games, going to sporting events, and going to the theatre.These groups are a fantastic way to meet singles who like to have a good time and value staying active.If you meet someone that you like, be assertive!Ask him or her out for a "real" date so that you can see if the two of you are a romantic match.

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