Teaching Children Responsibility

Responsibility can and must be taught. Being responsible is an attitude as well as a skill. Teach your child now.

Why can't you be more responsible?!! Ever said or heard that phrase? It is a common complaint of parents. They want their children to be more responsible but a child can't be responsible if he does not know how. The only way a child can learn responsibility is if he is taught. Teaching is a critical part of a parent child relationship.

Being responsible is an attitude as well as a skill. It can and must be taught. A child won't know to put their toys away unless they are taught. An adult won't know how to return something he has borrowed or be to work on time unless he was taught. It is absolutely necessary that all humans are taught responsibility. The best way a parent can teach a child responsibility is little by little day by day. Here are some tips to help you teach you child responsibility.

* Do not teach a child anything when they are tired or hungry.

* Criticism is poison when it is combined with teaching.

* Be patient, it takes time for anyone to change their ways.

* Start when a child is very young. When a child can walk they can pick up their toys. At age 3 or 4 they can make their bed. At 5 they can set the table and clear it. By age 8 they should have a list of jobs they do each week.

* Give them instructions and then let them do it. Don't keep nagging - just have a natural or monetary consequence follow if it is not done.

* Give tons of praise and encouragement.

Irresponsible behavior will be totally unacceptable in the work force when children are older. Each employee knows their responsibilities and does them each day or they are fired or they get a pay cut. We can't fire our kids, but we can certainly give them a pay cut. There are ways to model your home jobs as closely to the real work force.

The job "time sheet" is one way to make your children accountable for their jobs. Each time sheet is broken down by day with the job on it for the day. There is a column for a parent to check off if;

1.)The job was completed

2.)The job was done without complaining.

Each child gets a new job time sheet for the week. They must do their jobs and then come to a parent before the end of the day to have it checked off. You can pay them for all jobs done if you want.

Now there are some days when they can't do their jobs because they will be spending the night at a friends or going on a trip. But just like a real job they can ask for a morning or day off. But they have to ask in advance. They can not come up to you at the end of the day and say I needed today off because I was at a friends and could not do my jobs. They will still need to do the missed job the next day and they will get a pay cut. All jobs have to be done regardless of if they get paid or not.

This job system works just like the real world. Each child is responsible for looking at his job time sheet each day and doing the jobs. He can get the benefit or pay or not, but he still has to do the job. This job system will help teach children responsibility.

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