How To Tell If Your Girlfriend Is Cheating

Men generally gain a bad reputation for cheating, but more and more women are dabbling with infidelity.

Late nights at the office and switched off cell phones may get your conscience stirring. But how do you know if your girlfriend is really cheating on you? This guide will help you determine if your girlfriend displays some significant signs of cheating.

First it is important to understand the difference between how women and men treat infidelity. Generally, men are known to cheat for sexual pleasure only. While this is a part of why some women cheat, the reasoning is more complex. Women cheat for a variety of reasons, most of them to fill a void that she is not receiving in her current relationship. She may be looking for someone who is a better listener, someone who enjoys the same hobby or someone who doesn't expect sex every day. The difference in reasoning behind the infidelity means she will show different signs of cheating than a man would.

One of the leading signs that your girlfriend is cheating is a noticeable void in her need for your attention. Since she is now having that particular need met elsewhere, she will not pursue you to fill this need any longer. For example, if your girlfriend is an avid art collector she may encourage you to accompany her to an art show. If this is an important part of who she is as a person, it is also important to her that you respect her interests. If you refuse to attend any of these shows with her, she may find someone who will fill this need. This person could be a friend, but if there is an attraction and this other person is willing to fill this void, she may decide to cheat. This is one example, and one that can be applied to a variety of scenarios. The key is, if there's something that means a lot to her that she constantly asks you to do and then one day stops asking all together, it may not be because she's given up. There's a good chance someone else is fulfilling this need.

Another sign that your girlfriend is cheating is when she begins telling you less about her and turning the focus completely on you. By nature, women enjoy talking about things. Women like to talk about our days and enjoy sharing many details about their lives with you. If women have something to hide, it makes it difficult for them to share details about their day without lying about what has happened.If she has stopped sharing, begin asking about her day. If she seems reluctant to share, or provides a one sentence answer and changes the subject, it could be a sign of infidelity.

Women are generally big on affection. Most enjoy hand holding, kissing and cuddling. However if they are cheating, this is one of the things that will change. Women get very emotional about infidelity. They will ponder over the situation for most of their day, and this can trigger many feelings of guilt. Every time she now has to be intimate with you on any level, it will bring to mind her infidelity and cause her to feel very uncomfortable. If your girlfriend is constantly avoiding your affection, this is a strong sign she's cheating.

Another sign is her paying more attention to her physical appearance. Of course, if your girlfriend already focuses heavily on appearance, this may not be a sign at all. But if your girlfriend usually leaves the house in sweats and little makeup and now is putting on a nice outfit, makeup and fixing her hair for simple things like going to the grocery store, it may be cause for concern. If she suddenly is focusing on a diet and exercise regimen and makes no mention of what sparked her motivation, this could be a signal of infidelity.

Separately, these signs may be nothing more than a small change in behavior. But if your intuition says she's cheating and she displays two or more of these signs, there's a good chance your hunch could be correct. In addition to becoming aware of these signs, make mental notes of strange cell phone calls (whispering or shutting it off when ringing), excessive time on the computer (possibly e-mailing or chatting with someone) and check up casually when she's out running errands or having a girl's night to see if she answers the phone.

Of course, the best way to really know if your girlfriend has cheated is to confront her face to face. There is a possibility she will lie or become offended, but if enough evidence has mounted, this should be a risk you are willing to take. Determine beforehand if you want to work out the relationship or if you want to end things so you can set the grounds of honesty. If you decide to work things out, make her promise to end the affair immediately and consider attending couples counseling to build back trust and begin fulfilling each other's needs rather than looking elsewhere.

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