How To Tell Kids About Divorce

It is an unfortunate fact that many marriages today end in divorce. Adults who have decided to go their own ways will need to consider the other little lives in their care when making this decision.

How to Tell Kids about Divorce

It is an unfortunate fact that many marriages today end in divorce.Adults who have decided to go their own ways will need to consider the other little lives in their care when making this decision.The way children are told of their parents divorce may affect them for a long time, both in dealing with their parents and the upcoming changes.

Even young children two or three years old know when there are changes taking place.They may not fully understand those changes; however children take their clues from the adults around them.Following some common sense guidelines will help to insure that children are shown the consideration and care they deserve.

Time is important where your children are concerned.The changes that are taking place them may have already affected them.It is therefore critical that you take care of these items as soon as possible to avoid some of the long-term results of inaction.

Meet with your spouse ahead of time and reach an agreement concerning the content and method of telling the children.Keep in mind that while your spouse may become an ex-spouse, your children will always be your children.

Meet with your children together as a team if possible.It is important that you put aside all personal differences and present a united front to your children.Individual meetings can be conducted later during the process, however the initial talks should be together with both helping the children to understand.

Any individual meetings should also be discussed ahead of time with your spouse.This is not the time for anger or blame.This is the time when an agreement needs to be reached to consider your children's feelings and help them.



Put your children's welfare first, and do not let your own feelings interfere.Divorce, for whatever reason, can become a bitter battle""your children do not need to be a part of that battle.

Be honest with your children.They need to be prepared for not seeing Mom or Dad around as frequently as in the past.Children do not need the gory details of who did what to whom, but they do need to know what to expect from both parents in the future.

Let your children know that both Mom and Dad still love them.This is a divorce between the parents, not a divorce of the children.No matter what has taken place in the past, or may still happen in the future, your children's emotional well being may well be at stake.

One of the most important things to express to your children is that the divorce is not their fault.Children often see their parents splitting up as the result of some bad thing the children themselves have caused.

If necessary, bring in a professional counselor to help you with telling the children.This may also require some additional follow-up during or after the divorce.

Whatever course you as parents decide to take with your children, you must remember that your children will always be an important part of both of your lives.While they have had no part in making the decision to divorce, they certainly have a right to their feelings and emotions. As responsible adults parents will always be considerate of those feelings during what will be a traumatic time for the children.

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